Is your son or daughter having difficulty emerging as an independent adult? If so, you are not alone. Many young men and women find the challenge of emerging as independent young adults to be daunting. These young people experience “failure to launch”. In fact, the phenomenon inspired the movie, Failure to Launch.
It is not rare for a recent high school graduate to be overwhelmed by choices. Transitioning from the protected home environment to the adult world is difficult. In many cases young people get stuck exactly at the point when they need to move forward and take the independent steps necessary for living outside of the family home.
The Failure To Launch Program at Matara
The Hollywood version of Failure to Launch offers romantic comedy as a solution. At Matara we take a more nuanced approach. Underlying the program – the concept that entering adulthood requires the ability to focus on long-term as well as short-term goals.
While pleasure motivates children, young adults need to transition into discovering forms of reinforcement other than pleasure. We find that many young people in our Failure To Launch program are overly dependent upon immediate gratification. Is this true for your child? Are they getting immediate reinforcement in the form of computer/video gaming? Is your child excessively dependent upon you to provide for needs that ought to be managed more independently?
How the Failure to Launch Program Works
To help “failure to launch” young adults, the Matara program emphasizes the following:
- Goal Clarification.
Young adults create a stepwise model of goals. Each young adults sets initial goals (that can be attained relatively quickly) and defines long-term aspirations (requiring more effort and more planning).
- Goal Grounding.
Each goal that a young person sets must be grounded in a specific value. In other words, goals must connect to some higher principle that the individual believes in.
- Goal Support.
Each young person identifies what supports in terms of resources and people are available to help them reach their goals
- Goal Strengths.
Each individual identifies the individual strengths that will help them achieve the desired goals.
Once the young person has successfully identified all four of these factors, a personal counselor works with him or her to implement a plan to actualize their dreams. The plan involves practical steps. Step-by-step, the young adult develops enough self-awareness and mindfulness to self-monitor the plan. Click here to learn more about how the program builds a sense of self-worth and self-esteem.
At Matara, we can help your child successfully transition to adult life. Call now, or just fill out the contact form and click Send.
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